Neil Wilkie (NEW) | Vistage UK
Speaker Bio

Neil Wilkie (NEW)

Neil is an experienced Business Leader and has been a Vistage Chair for over 7 years.

Starting business life as a Chartered Accountant he quickly renounced this and moved into retailing with Sainsbury’s, became a Director with Boots and then several years as a Strategy Consultant with PWC and KPMG where he led start-ups, turn rounds and culture change programmes. After an MBA at Cranfield he moved into Management Buy Ins where he put together 13.

Neil eventually realised that fulfilment was more important than generating money; sold his businesses and went on a journey of discovery of the world inside and outside. He qualified as a Psychotherapist and started working with successful but unhappy Business Leaders. This journey took him into the world of Relationships and deep research into what creates and maintains great relationships as well as how to resolve relationship problems.

Neil has a degree in Management Sciences (whatever that was back in the 70’s) an FCA, a Diploma in Marketing and an MBA. He is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts.

His Psychotherapeutic training encompasses Counselling, Coaching, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapy, Master Practitioner in NLP, Accredited Facilitator in Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling.

He came across the concept of Systemic Constellations a few years ago and was fascinated by how elegantly and quickly it could unearth and resolve intractable people problems. He has modified and developed the approach to work particularly well with sceptical business leaders.

As well as his work with Vistage, Neil is a non Exec Chairman of 3 large companies, NXD of a startup and runs an innovative Relationship Coaching business, www.duocoaching.com. He is currently writing his first book, The Relationship Paradigm and is investing in his work life balance by spending a week a month heading to the sun with his wife, Gwen, on their yacht, Moon River.

Neil looks forward to sharing his wealth of experiences to help you on your journey.

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Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

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Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

Overview of session:

Why this is of particular interest to CEO’s

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

Objectives of Session:

The session is in 2 parts.

The first part uses the whole group to participate in a Human Constellation and will help some of the participants get right of the heart of a problem that previously seemed intractable and will provide quick and effective solutions.

The second part allows all the members to create their own constellations using metaphors and in pairs or triads to investigate and resolve a particular issue or to explore their current and desired future.

Value and Takeaways:

  • Resolve one stuck issue for several participants
  • Demonstrate how Constellations can be a novel and useful way of processing stuck issues
  • Participation in a whole group Constellation
  • Participation in small group metaphorical Constellations
  • Option to have one of your issues processed

Immediate Takeaways:

  • Understanding what a ‘Constellation’ is
  • Understand how to use the method in your organisation
  • How to use the method in your 1 to 1’s

What is a Constellation?

A constellation is a living map made of neutral individuals who are used as representatives for specific people, teams, divisions, products or more abstract elements like ‘our customers’ or ‘our culture’.

This has grown out of the work done by Bert Hellinger, a German Monk turned Psychoanalyst. I have further developed it using Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling from the work of David Grove.

Why a constellation actually works is hard to explain (maybe Quantum mechanics might help!). The important thing is to experience the power of them in unlocking a stuck problem.

Overview of a Human Constellation

With guidance from the facilitator the client is invited to choose different representatives for each important element and then simply place them in the space in relation to each other. The client then steps back and becomes an observer of a remarkable but highly effective process that doesn’t use intellectual thinking but embodied information.

A pattern emerges. A pattern which is an external expression of the hidden, internal dynamics in the system. This initial map of ‘what is’ is illuminated to identify the dynamics that are blocking or causing difficulties and, as the constellation develops, missing conversations are completed, what has been excluded is re-membered and fresh resources located. Through a combination of facilitation informed by a knowledge of the dynamics which sustain and limit systems and the phenomena of representative perception the constellation shows what is needed for change. A new pattern emerges that creates fresh insight and then resources and resolves, bringing balance to the whole system.

Overview of a Metaphorical Constellation

Where there are not enough people to run a constellation, or to run a constellation in a 1 to 1 it is possible to use objects as metaphors for the people.

You can use Lego bricks, Post it notes, or other objects. I always use pebbles/stones as I find the variety of sizes, shapes, colours and textures can be very helpful metaphors and add significantly to the knowledge.

Actions I expect them to make and Real World Applicability

I expect participants to come away from the session with:

  • A significant problem resolved
  • Deeper insight their current state and the future they want.
  • A desire to use Metaphorical Constellations with their team and family in the future

Added April 2019.

Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

Read more

Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

Overview of session:

Why this is of particular interest to CEO’s

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

Objectives of Session:

The session is in 2 parts.

The first part uses the whole group to participate in a Human Constellation and will help some of the participants get right of the heart of a problem that previously seemed intractable and will provide quick and effective solutions.

The second part allows all the members to create their own constellations using metaphors and in pairs or triads to investigate and resolve a particular issue or to explore their current and desired future.

Value and Takeaways:

  • Resolve one stuck issue for several participants
  • Demonstrate how Constellations can be a novel and useful way of processing stuck issues
  • Participation in a whole group Constellation
  • Participation in small group metaphorical Constellations
  • Option to have one of your issues processed

Immediate Takeaways:

  • Understanding what a ‘Constellation’ is
  • Understand how to use the method in your organisation
  • How to use the method in your 1 to 1’s

What is a Constellation?

A constellation is a living map made of neutral individuals who are used as representatives for specific people, teams, divisions, products or more abstract elements like ‘our customers’ or ‘our culture’.

This has grown out of the work done by Bert Hellinger, a German Monk turned Psychoanalyst. I have further developed it using Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling from the work of David Grove.

Why a constellation actually works is hard to explain (maybe Quantum mechanics might help!). The important thing is to experience the power of them in unlocking a stuck problem.

Overview of a Human Constellation

With guidance from the facilitator the client is invited to choose different representatives for each important element and then simply place them in the space in relation to each other. The client then steps back and becomes an observer of a remarkable but highly effective process that doesn’t use intellectual thinking but embodied information.

A pattern emerges. A pattern which is an external expression of the hidden, internal dynamics in the system. This initial map of ‘what is’ is illuminated to identify the dynamics that are blocking or causing difficulties and, as the constellation develops, missing conversations are completed, what has been excluded is re-membered and fresh resources located. Through a combination of facilitation informed by a knowledge of the dynamics which sustain and limit systems and the phenomena of representative perception the constellation shows what is needed for change. A new pattern emerges that creates fresh insight and then resources and resolves, bringing balance to the whole system.

Overview of a Metaphorical Constellation

Where there are not enough people to run a constellation, or to run a constellation in a 1 to 1 it is possible to use objects as metaphors for the people.

You can use Lego bricks, Post it notes, or other objects. I always use pebbles/stones as I find the variety of sizes, shapes, colours and textures can be very helpful metaphors and add significantly to the knowledge.

Actions I expect them to make and Real World Applicability

I expect participants to come away from the session with:

  • A significant problem resolved
  • Deeper insight their current state and the future they want.
  • A desire to use Metaphorical Constellations with their team and family in the future

Added April 2019.

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Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

Read more

Using the Magic of Constellations to Resolve Stuck Issues

Overview of session:

Why this is of particular interest to CEO’s

This will provide a new way of resolving significant problems, understand the relationships between your team and give you insights into yourself and the future possibilities.

Objectives of Session:

The session is in 2 parts.

The first part uses the whole group to participate in a Human Constellation and will help some of the participants get right of the heart of a problem that previously seemed intractable and will provide quick and effective solutions.

The second part allows all the members to create their own constellations using metaphors and in pairs or triads to investigate and resolve a particular issue or to explore their current and desired future.

Value and Takeaways:

  • Resolve one stuck issue for several participants
  • Demonstrate how Constellations can be a novel and useful way of processing stuck issues
  • Participation in a whole group Constellation
  • Participation in small group metaphorical Constellations
  • Option to have one of your issues processed

Immediate Takeaways:

  • Understanding what a ‘Constellation’ is
  • Understand how to use the method in your organisation
  • How to use the method in your 1 to 1’s

What is a Constellation?

A constellation is a living map made of neutral individuals who are used as representatives for specific people, teams, divisions, products or more abstract elements like ‘our customers’ or ‘our culture’.

This has grown out of the work done by Bert Hellinger, a German Monk turned Psychoanalyst. I have further developed it using Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling from the work of David Grove.

Why a constellation actually works is hard to explain (maybe Quantum mechanics might help!). The important thing is to experience the power of them in unlocking a stuck problem.

Overview of a Human Constellation

With guidance from the facilitator the client is invited to choose different representatives for each important element and then simply place them in the space in relation to each other. The client then steps back and becomes an observer of a remarkable but highly effective process that doesn’t use intellectual thinking but embodied information.

A pattern emerges. A pattern which is an external expression of the hidden, internal dynamics in the system. This initial map of ‘what is’ is illuminated to identify the dynamics that are blocking or causing difficulties and, as the constellation develops, missing conversations are completed, what has been excluded is re-membered and fresh resources located. Through a combination of facilitation informed by a knowledge of the dynamics which sustain and limit systems and the phenomena of representative perception the constellation shows what is needed for change. A new pattern emerges that creates fresh insight and then resources and resolves, bringing balance to the whole system.

Overview of a Metaphorical Constellation

Where there are not enough people to run a constellation, or to run a constellation in a 1 to 1 it is possible to use objects as metaphors for the people.

You can use Lego bricks, Post it notes, or other objects. I always use pebbles/stones as I find the variety of sizes, shapes, colours and textures can be very helpful metaphors and add significantly to the knowledge.

Actions I expect them to make and Real World Applicability

I expect participants to come away from the session with:

  • A significant problem resolved
  • Deeper insight their current state and the future they want.
  • A desire to use Metaphorical Constellations with their team and family in the future

Added April 2019.

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